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Depending on some of the DJs and dancers, the lighting may change at times but this list will give you a general idea of what you can expect.
Have you ever heard of or seen a Dwarf or Little Person who was a dancer?
Nope. Although, by using the strict definition of dwarf (4' 10"), I think there was a dancer at Century that was that short.
Can the dancers at Venus Faire see inside the viewing room or is it a one way mirror type deal where we can see in but they can't see us?
In the stage area where multiple booths look into a big room with several dancers, it is very hard for the dancer to see you while your money is going. However, as soon as the money runs out, the light inside the booth turns on and she can clearly see you at that point.
As for the private one on one booths, both parties can see each other very clearly. Some of the dancers actually get turned on (or so they say) when they see you get "comfortable".
My husband and I are looking for a place that has both male and female exotic dancers. Until recently we were going to Mr. J's - they had a male dance team by the name of "Ultimate Fantasy" - but they're gone now and the new dance team really sucks and the new guys are not nearly as good looking as they think they are!!!!
Please help if you can - There are a lot of horney women out there looking for love!
I've been asked this a lot and unfortunately, I don't have a good answer for you. I've heard of Metro in Ventura but don't really know anything about it. If anybody out there reading this knows of any good male revues, please email me with the info.
i was wondering if you could tell me the artist of the song "pussy control". it seems no one knows.
That would be TAFKAP (The Artist Formerly Known As Prince). That song is track 1 on "The Gold Experience" but is written as "P Control" on the cover.
My wife and I are looking for a place in LA (bar, club, etc.) where we can watch 2 women having sex. We know we could get a couple "escorts" but we'd rather go somewhere...
Although I have seen this at Tropical Lei, it is usually not planned and you can't expect to see it. There are private clubs where dancers have sex with each other prior to doing lap dances but since I don't know you, I cannot give out any names and locations. Most of the ones that I came across were from dancers inviting me to go. If you ask around, you might get lucky.
Without going to full-on escorts, you can get 2 dancers at a club to do a private show for you at a hotel. Usually, if you watch a dancer in a club, you'll see if she has a "friend" she seems to be friendly with. First, ask her if she will do a lap dance for her friend. If she says yes, watch to see how they get along. If they seem to be very friendly, ask them if they have ever done private girl on girl shows. You could even get 2 dancers that don't know each other to do it for you but the show won't be as good.
Good luck and let me know how it turns out.
I'm a newbie to strip clubs. I went to a club (Centerfolds in SF) for the first time about a month ago, and I just went back this weekend, to Centerfolds and a few other Deja Vu clubs. Both times I had an amazing time, which was pretty unexpected. I was thinking that the clubs would seem too sleazy, or that lap-dancing with a stranger would just be too weird for me. But I loved it. I had a bunch of different private dances with a total of about 10 or 12 dancers, and they were all great. Expensive as hell, but well worth the price.
However, recently I've been having some reservations about this. I'm not sure if I'm really doing the dancers a favor by going to these places. I had a great time at the clubs and I think it was good for me, but in most of the stories I've heard about dancers, dancing hasn't been healthy for them. It often seems to be tied up with some kind of abuse they've suffered or problem they have, either financial or emotional. A friend of mine who knows a lot of dancers said that he thought that very few of them really wanted to be doing what they were doing.
I'm writing to you because you know a lot about the strip club scene and the lives of the dancers, and also because, at least from my reading of your website, you seem to care about the people you dance with.
Yes, sometimes I feel very jaded but I have many close friends who are dancers (including ex-roommates) so I can't help feeling for their situations.
Have you ever dealt with these kinds of moral questions, either about dancing in general or in a particular situation? For the dancers you've known, has dancing generally been a positive experience, or has it been something they're trapped in?
I would have to say that for the most part, it's not a good experience. I can certainly name many dancers who only danced while they were in school and it was a great help. However, I know more dancers who got "stuck" in dancing because of the money and found themselves without any education or training when they started to get too old. There are also other negative side effects, such as the ones talked about on ASSC (alt.sex.strip-clubs), like stripper damage which makes many dancers feel very negative towards men in general.
As for your moral question, I must say that I've never been posed with this question before and find your email very interesting. Your question really is whether you should entertain yourself with this type of adult entertainment if it turns out that it is actually detrimental to the dancers. One thing I would say is that what you are doing is legal. I say this because if you were selling illegal drugs and wondering if it was hurting people, that's what I would point to BEFORE any moral questions.
In this case, your activities are perfectly legal. Next, the dancer is working on her own volition. She wants to make money for whatever reason and that's what she is doing. IMO, whether she works for a short time and is not affected by the negative areas of dancing or she works for 20 years and becomes mentally injured, is not up to you. I don't know what the percentage is, but many dancers are single moms and your money will go directly to helping her support her baby or child. Is this a bad thing?
Ponder the following example: When you go to a store, do you worry that the clerk might be a drug addict and using his paycheck to buy drugs and destroy his life? That's really not your concern. Are there negatives to working at a 24 hour convenience store? Actually, the odds of him getting robbed and perhaps injured are much higher than almost any other clerk job he can have. Does this mean you should not go to these types of businesses because the clerk might get hurt? That would be silly.
If you got to know a dancer and she told you that she was using the money she got from you to only buy drugs, then you might have a different moral question on your hands. But, IMO, you are helping more dancers than you are hurting. That sounds like a good thing, not a bad thing.
I'd appreciate any insight you can give me on this. It may sound corny, but I care about the women in these places, and I want to do right by them.
Obviously, you are a red blooded guy that appreciates good adult entertainment. However, you also have a good heart that wants to care. I must say that you should be very careful with that heart of yours because there are women (dancers and non-dancers) that would take advantage of it. I've seen it too many times. Just my 2 cents.
Have you ever heard of this strip club (Dr. Scotts Place)?
This review is from The Ultimate Strip Club List.
Dr. Scotts Place
2121 Broadway @ Trake st.
Los Angeles, CA
Cover Charge Day: $10 Night: $10
Private Dances: Unknown Average Dance: $10
Alcohol: Unknown Average Drink: $5
Last Update: 5/29/97
Anonymous on 5/28/97: Doc took me to this place one night after we left the Rage at about 2:00 a.m. Dr Scott's Place is open till 5:00 am. Doc and I arrived to a club that was ON FIRE! Trust me, this place is like no other club you have EVER seen. The girls walk around naked and covered in steaming baby oil. If you go into the Sheperd's lounge, you can get a naked lap dance where both you and the stripper are naked and covered in baby oil. Its insane! Doc left me to party with three strippers. I found a hot little latin number. You must go to this place.
Sounds pretty hot. Unfortunately, Dr. Scott is a TV evangelist and other than his church service on Sundays, not much goes on. The only illegal activity might be him smoking his cigar in his "church".
I was at Tropical Lei last weekend and noticed that a of couple guys were wearing short pants. I was always under the impression that strip clubs have certain dress codes (i.e., long pants required). Any comments?
I always wear shorts to TL. They used to check to make sure you wore underwear if you had really short shorts on. You can get around this by taking off your underwear in the bathroom and throwing it away. Otherwise, just wear really loose longer shorts and they won't even check. Be sure to cut out your pockets too. :)
I'm just curios but what or who sets the guidelines on how nasty a club can be?
I've been to many L.A. and Vegas clubs but when I recently went to San Francisco, my god I couldn'y believe some of the stuff they were doing in the clubs. We went to one called centerfolds (Deja Vu?) and they [had] a sex show where two chicks were going off on each other with dildos, also when they were onstage they would invite customers to touch them like grabbing there breasts, and this one chick took a customers straw and stuck it in her muff....which was pretty interesting.
The dances were completely nude and you could grope them anywhere except between the legs. They were 20 bucks when I was there but my buddy says there usually 40.
I could go on and on but I'm a little jeolous about how they could go off like that up there and down here theres almost nothing. Lapdances and floor shows will not be the same again. I would think that Vegas should be the most lienient but I guess not. So am I just not looking hard enough down here or should I move to S.F.???
The nastiest clubs in LA cannot match SF, let alone the nastiest places in SF. Although there are CA state laws, the local government dictates which laws are enforced and how strictly. Here in LA, it's gotten a lot nastier over the last 10+ years but nothing compared to SF. Just appreciate the fact that in San Diego, they don't even touch you during nude laps and have to be 6 feet away!
I predict that slowly, we are headed that way. It's gonna take a while... perhaps another 10 years. It really seems to depend on the Mayor who puts pressure on the D.A.
As for moving to SF, you can get one way flights for $49 or less so just fly there on weekends.
How come I can reach you from my ISP, but not prodigy? Do you block out prodigy? How about expanding to Riverside County?
More like Prodigy blocks me out. Tell them to let me in! Are there some good clubs out there? If so, send in some mini-reviews. In the mean time, I've been eating more in order to expand out as much as possible.
I would like to travel to Japan, Guam, Hawaii, Hong Kong, Taiwan, etc. and dance there. I am looking for a round trip, all accommodations paid contract that does not involve prostitution.
For Japan, try: (310) 493-9042, 321 1/2 E. 1st St #206, LA, CA 90012, passport needed.
Guam: 0011-671 (649-6798) or (649-0419), $500/w salary + round trip air, no passport needed.
I don't know either one of these companies and am not recommending them. Use them at your own risk.
Nobody in Hawaii will pay for your trip unless you are a feature. Personally, I like Femme Nu and Rockza. You just fly there and get a job. Don't know anything about Hong Kong or Taiwan.
Good luck and keep in touch and let me know what you decide to do. I will warn you that dancing in Japan involves a LOT of touching. Same with Hawaii, where they have nude with alcohol. Guam has "friction" dancing which is pretty much like hardcore lap dancing but not as much heavy touching as Japan. However, Guam is not a very friendly place in my experience. I did not like it at all. Hawaii and Japan are much more fun with lots of fun things to do. There is nothing fun to do in Guam except swim.
Yo. Where can i find that mag private dancer. do they have a web page? got a clue.. and by the way this is a great page. keep up the good work. NEED TO GET THAT MAG.... H E L P !
They can be reached at:
Private Dancer Monthly
15507 South Normandie Avenue, Suite 273
Gardena, CA 90247
(310) 257-9111 FAX
I would like to know if you feel that it is necessary to have big breasts to be a success in this field?
From my experience, every dancer I know that has gotten implants have made more money. This may be because the dancer have more confidence or because customers tip more. I don't know the real reason. Do you have to have big breasts to be a success? No.
I will tell you that I am a very intelligent female and I strongly believe that beauty should be natural and not obtained through falsifying it.
Some customers like natural breasts. Many don't know the difference. Most like them bigger. Personally, I like naturally large breasts and I know the difference.
I was wondering if you thought a dancer could be just as successful and desirable scantily clothed as totally nude?
There are many dancers who make money at bikini clubs (e.g. Fantasy Island, California Girls). However, if those same girls worked at a nude club, most of them would make more money. That doesn't mean that one cannot make money dancing at a bikini club. I don't know how old you are but most nude dancers are very young (18-22) and therefore older dancers tend to work at topless clubs where you must be 21 to work. Also, nude dancers do not know how to chat with customers and at many topless clubs, chatting is a must.
I was wondering if you could explain to me exactly what is meant by a gentleman "buying a drink" for the dancer?
All it means it that the house (the strip club) has a minimum number of drinks that the dancer must get from customers. If you don't, you have to buy them yourself at the end of the night (i.e. just pay for the drinks out of your pocket).
As for sitting with customers, that's the general idea. However, some dancers simply talk for a few minutes and move on. This is strictly up to the dancers. You should try to gauge the customer and determine if you think they will get dances from you if you sit with them for a while. If not, move on quickly or you will be wasting valuable time.
It takes some on the job training to be able to tell what types of customers will tip you and which ones won't. It's not as easy to determine as you might think. Nicely dressed, good looking guys do not think they have to tip to talk to girls. Nerdy looking guys are more likely to tip.
Also, since you've been [to Spearmint Rhino] before, are the cocktail waitresses nude?
They used to wear a tux uniform but now they wear a skimpy g-string outfit, but no nudity. My understanding is that they will be returning to the uniforms soon if they haven't already.
The best trick in the book is to first cocktail waitress at a busy club that you think you might want to dance at. This way, the customers get to know you, want to see your body, start tipping you good (as a waitress). After a while, they will try to get you to dance for them. If they pay a lot, you can do a dance for them or refuse. Then later, after you've milked it for all you can, become a dancer there and all the customers that wanted to see your body will tip you good. But, keep in mind, there's always another new waitress coming down the line and you will be old news in a few months. When your money starts to go down, move on to a new club.
Let me know, if you think I'd be successful at this type of thing.
Making money dancing involves so many factors (other than looks) that I cannot predict your situation because I don't really know you. It's like asking me if I think you could be Miss America based on a picture of you. It takes more than just looks.
Can the lap dancer place any part of her body, (ie: tongue, lips and such) on the client or how does that work?
Legally, no. However, most nude clubs allow grinding, kneeing, touching, etc. Topless clubs officially do not allow touching but most dancers do, to make more money. Of course, there are always a few dancers that do much more by hiding it carefully from the club.
This is probably an unusual letter for you to receive but I thought you might be interested in hearing this.
I am a dancer in the L.A. area and had injuries to my feet while dancing. I would like to add that I have my own independent Blue Cross of California medical and dental insurance policy. I have not been to a doctor/clinic in my area which does not accept Blue Cross. My plan is a PPO. I was recently refused medical services and surgery by a doctor I had been seeing for a month for the foot problems because of the fact I am an exotic dancer. He flat out told me that and claimed that all dancers lead sleazy lifestyles, etc.
I am now being helped at a very reputable clinic, and it looks like I will soon be back to dancing and my normal club. I was curious about your opinion on refusal for a doctor to refuse to operate/treat a patient based on the fact that he/she does not like their line of work. To your knowledge is this technically discrimination?
The things he accused me of doing/being simply because I am a dancer were by no way based on fact and were in fact obscene.
This is one of the most interesting e-mail I've gotten. I am amazed at the attitude of this doctor who is sworn to helping and curing people. To answer your question, his statement would be discrimination. However, you might have 2 problems if you were to bring a case. 1. Unless there were other witnesses in the room when he told you what he said, he could flatly deny that he said anything to you. 2. Since you were able to find another clinic to your liking and the surgery you needed was not an emergency, you will find it difficult to show that you were injured in some way (except perhaps emotionally).
Remember that I'm not an attorney and my advise is simply based on my personal experiences. Before making any final decisions about this situation, you should consult an attorney. I should tell you that many attorneys will not likely take this type of case as it is hard to win because of your profession. I know that's not fair but I have had similar problems with other dancer friends who needed attorneys. Unfortunately, the attorneys are often correct in that many juries will be anti-dancer and would vote against dancers. But this is not always the case and there have been rare notable exceptions.
Unfortunately, society at large still has negative attitudes toward the industry. I have had problems myself with my web site. Even though I have no nudity or pornography on my web site, most advertisers do not want to have anything to do with my web site. This attitude has been slowly changing over the years but there is a long way to go.
There is a web site called "Exotic Dancers Alliance". I have a link to them on my site under "Links to Web Sites." They are in the bay area (CA) and the 2 dancers that started this organization are dedicated to helping dancers with everything from creating unions at their clubs to bringing on law suites.
Thanks for your excellent reviews. Good job. I've been to the Gentlemen's Club twice and and agree with you. However, none of those (pretty) girls wore some nice lingerie. Is this normal here in the U.S.? Any suggestions before I go back home?
Yes, I agree. Very few nude dancers wear lingerie anymore. There are more lingeries being worn at topless clubs but it's still rare. Of course, if you are a good tipper, you can always ask you fave dancer to wear it and I'm sure she will accommodate. My dancer of the month, Madison at GC sometimes wears lingerie. Ask her.
How often does a dancer allow a customer lick her vagina? And for the reason I'm asking can it transmit any sexual disease? Some moderate contact wouldn't hurt right? Just want to know what you think.
The first part of your question varies from dancer to dancer. As you are already aware, I'm not a doctor. However, I did ask a micro-biologist from UCLA about the latest findings. There are many STDs that you can catch from licking a vagina. If there is an open sore, you could catch herpes as well as other lesser known STDs.
More importantly, if you are wondering what the chances of catching AIDS is, my source tells me that the odds are low as long as she has no open sores and you do not have any cuts in your mouth. However, what are the odds of winning the Lotto? Very low. But do you play? Many do. Why? Because there is that small chance. Well, you get the idea.
You have to take the situation into account. If the dancer is letting all her customers lick her vagina, your odds of getting something from her may be high compared to another dancer that does not allow this type of activity.
Have fun out there but play safe.