|There are many questions in the world of strip clubs
but I seem to get the same ones a lot. I have collected questions
regarding strip clubs, clubbing, dancers, and even this website, and put
them into this FAQ page. There's no way that I can cover
everything here but it's a good way for you to get started in getting to
know more about this industry and subject matter.
Please check here and read carefully before you send me e-mail asking
about something already answered.
Thanks for conserving bandwidth on the Internet.
Where can I get more info on features?
For schedules of features, try:
If you need fan club type information, try these web sites:
If you want to read some porn gossip and industry info, try:
If you still can't find what you want, checkout the newsgroups:
Moreover, the above newsgroup has an official website (www.rame.net) which
includes a impressive FAQ with everthing you ever wanted to know about
porno, a full database of movies, including most of the adult actress
websites and email addresses.
How can I meet a feature?
Go to one of the strip clubs that offer feature dancers, wait for her
to come off stage to sign autographs, pay for a Polaroid picture and start
talking quickly because there will be a line behind you. Although I have
gotten lap dances from features, usually, they are overpriced for what you
get. Unless you really, really, want to get a lap from your favorite
feature, it's not worth the extra price you have to pay.
Alternatively, go to the Consumer Electronics Show (CES) in January in Las
Vegas. All the big name stars are there every year. FREE autographs, FREE
pictures, FREE chatting. But expect to stand in long lines for the big
name features. In years past, there were a lot of flashing but now the
flashing is a little more discreet so you have to wait around and watch
You can also see your favorite feature at the
Erotica LA show
which usually takes place in June each year at the Convention Center. It's
smaller than CES but most of the local talent shows up and since they are
not the big names, they tend to be friendlier to the fans. Because of the
strict LA laws, don't expect to see ANY flashing at this show.
How do we book features for our club?
Try contacting the following booking agencies:
|Continental Booking Agency
|Girls, Girls, Girls
|The Lee Network
|Wide World Entertainment
I've never dealt directly with any of these companies so please let me
know how they are if you end up using them.
How do we book features for a private
The easiest way would be to talk to them directly at a club that they
are featuring at. Many non-big name features will do parties and private
shows. However, keep in mind that if they are popular, they will charge
accordingly. The going rate seems to be about $400 per hour.
Where can I find Asian dancers?
This is one of my most FAQs and some people came up to
the plate with answers, which is saved in the
Best of ZBB.
Rick Jordan re-posted his "Ho Chi Minh Trail, The Clubs" post about no
less than 9 Asian clubs in Long Beach a while back.
Click here to read it. Note that some of
these clubs maybe KIA by now.
Bill Flanagan (email) says RJ's
list is outdated. He says, "Asian Nights is gone, city opened a
police substation across the street. Shanghai Mike's closed a
couple of years ago. Ace of Hearts is closed last year, owner
Malinda opened a straight (and nice) dinner house in Bellflower. Kim
Diamonds closed several years ago, entire block has been leveled. The
strip club Angel's is
still cooking down the street, however."
Speaking of Long Beach Asain clubs, Linda Lee's Barracuda now has a
lindalees.com (down). There are pictures of Asian dancers (and even
Linda) on the website.
Reporter Bluenote has compiled an extensive list of Asian dancers at
various clubs: Century,
Sahara 3, and
Click here to read the juice. This guy has
done his homework. Hard work but somebody's gotta do it.
There is also an event called Asian Model Palooza where Asian models and
Asian adult video stars come together for a signing and a little stage
dancing. Get more info on their website at
Where can I find African-American dancers?
There are 3 clubs in Gardena that have many black dancers. I've been to
all three in the early 90's, which is too long for me to do a fair review.
However, here are the addresses and phone numbers:
14401 S. Western
Ron's Barbary Coast
14320 S. Western
2528 Rosecrans Ave.
You might also want to check out:
Charlie's Live Enterainment
3140 West Florence Avenue
There is another bikini club in OC (?) that I've been to many years ago
which was much smaller than the above clubs but cozy. If anybody knows
which club I'm talking about, please
For the more adventurous readers, you might try the underground black
clubs "Cool EXscape" at Crenshaw & Lennox and "Lee Max's" at
Western & 189th.
Where can I find hot Latin dancers?
There are several clubs with a few Latin dancers but frankly, it's hard
to tell by looks sometimes. For topless, checkout
Sam's Hof Brau which has
many Mexican and Brazilian dancers (especially during the day shift) and
so does Fort Knox.
For nude, checkout PlayPen.
Nicole sent me a list of latina girls who work at
(Industry) as of August 2001: Nicole, Dominique, Sugar, Electra, Natalie,
Julie, Rena, Alyssa, Vanessa, Joy, Venus and Diamond.
If you want to check out some young bikini chicas, you might try:
Alameda Strip in downtown with stage dancing, lap dancing and full
- San Antoni Rose at 4505 S. Downey Rd. (323) 588-8288 (Map). There is no stage there but lap dancing is
available starting at $1.
RJ mentions them in his report of Asian
clubs in Long Beach. He basically says to stay away. I think you might
actually have better luck at some of the hostess clubs or a regular dance
club. If anybody has more information, please
How do I find out if a specific dancer is working?
A few clubs have the dancer's schedules online on their website but
most do not. You can call the club and ask. However, some employees
at clubs will lie just to get you to come to the club. You will only find
out from trial and error if this is the case. Personally, I think that's a
bad practice because it only gets the customer mad. To improve your
chances of getting an accurate answer on the phone, next time you are at
the club, find out from the dancer what is a good way at that particular
club and who you may need to ask to talk to on the phone to get the
How much should I tip the dancers?
Tipping is optional. But like at restaurants, it's pretty much taken
for granted that you tip the dancers. My general rule of thumb is, if you
are sitting on stage, tip at least $1 per song. If you don't want to spend
that much, sit off stage and enjoy the show from there. If you like a
particular dancer and want to get her attention, then tip at least double
what everybody else is tipping. Normally $5 - $10 should get her
attention. More if you can afford it.
For private or one-on-one dances, it's good to know how much the dancer
gets to keep. Most of my reviews tell you how much the club takes. At a
club where the dancer has to pay the club a lot of money per song, it's
nice to tip extra above the stated price per song. For example, I may tip
an extra $5 for a $20 or $30 lap dance if I thought she was very good.
If you are planning on returning to this club and seeing the same
dancer again, tip extra and she'll remember the next time. If you are not
planning on returning (from out of town), you will want to tip her BEFORE
the end of your private dance so that she knows you are a good tipper.
Normally, dancers will only start to do some good dancing after you get
at least 2 dances. If you don't get more for each dance, I would stop. The
smart dancers will do some extras right at the end of each song to entice
you to get another one. If that's the only time she does extras, forget it
and quit there.
Basically, it's simple. The bigger the bill, the better the thrill.
OK, but when do I tip her?
For stage tipping at a nude club, I would suggest that you put up at
least a dollar as soon as the dancer comes on stage. This will lure her to
you and if you like what you see, you can tip her more and she will stay
in front of you. For stage tipping at a topless club, if you want the
dancer to dance directly in front of you, tip while she is dancing. If
not, she will probably come around after her set and indicate to you to
tip her before she leaves the stage.
For private and lap dances, depending on the club, the dancer may ask
you to tip her before the dancing starts. This is for her
protection in case you forgot to bring your wallet. After the first dance,
if she saw the money in your pocket, she may elect to dance and get paid
later. The club policy is usually to ask the customer to pay first.
However, most dancers will elect to get paid after the dance, hoping to
get extra tips. In any case, make sure that you and the dancer agree to
the price before starting your dances.
What is a tipout?
Although this sounds like something a customer has to give the dancer,
this is actually money that the dancer has to pay the house (the club) for
the privilege of working there. This can be anywhere from nothing to $130
per shift in LA. This fee is also called "stage fee" at some clubs because
the dancer is "renting" the stage from the club. The tipout can also
include a portion of the lap/table dance money that the dancer has made.
This can vary from 0% to 50%.
How much do dancers make?
This can vary greatly depending on the location, club, and physical
attributes and mental attitude of the dancer. How much the dancer actually
takes home (net) from what she makes (gross) is also affected by the
tipout to the club (which varies from nothing to $130+).
Typically, an average dancer at a small to medium topless club will
average $50 - $200 net. The average nude dancer will net about $150 - $400
depending on the type of club. If the club does not emphasize private or
laps, the amount will be on the lower side. In clubs where all the money
is made via laps, the numbers can be much higher. A good looking but nasty
dancer who can hustle drinks, and laps all night can average $300 - $600
But keep in mind that few dancers work more than 3 to 4 days a week, if
even that. Many dancers experience dancer burnout and cannot work for
weeks at a time. They will often take very expensive vacations to recharge
their batteries. Also, there are expenses (e.g., costumes, tanning,
makeup, nails) and there is very little job security in the industry. It's
not unusual for a dancer to be fired and be out of work for several weeks.
What is a "regular" customer?
Normally, this indicates that the customer visits a particular club a
lot. Depending on the dancer, this may be a good thing or a bad thing.
Regular customers usually enter the club without paying and hang out for
long periods of time. They will also help dancers by bringing them food or
giving them rides. However, the money making dancers know that most
regulars do not tip very much, if at all. Most regulars feel that
they do not need to tip since they are, well, regulars. This is clearly
how one can tell if a dancer is a type 1, 2 or 3 depending on how she
relates to a regular.
How often would I have to visit to be a
It would depend on how active you are and when you visit the club, but
I would say a minimum of once a week. If you are quiet and come when it's
busy, you'd have to visit much more often. If you come when it's dead and
talk to everyone or spend a ton of money, once a week would be enough.
How do I become a dancer's customer?
Being a dancer's customer (a.k.a. tipper or regular), usually means
that this customer normally only tips one particular dancer. Depending on
the dancer, this could simply be a customer that comes in and only gets
laps with one dancer or in extreme cases, a customer that only talks to
one dancer. As for how to become one, it really is up to the customer to
purposely favor just one dancer. If a customer tips all or most of the
dancers at a club, he would not be considered anybody's tipper. Obviously,
the bigger you tip, the more attention you would get from the dancer in
question. However, be very careful in this regard because this is a sure
way to start some DP (dancer politics) and get in some big trouble.
Before you rush out to become a dancer's regular, read the next FAQ
How do I stop being a dancer's regular?
This is an excellent question. I have been in that situation several
times. I've even had situations where I went to another club to avoid the
dancer and she moved to the new club and I was in the same situation once
Generally speaking, there is no real graceful way of unbecoming a
dancer's tipper. At a lap club (e.g. TL), I would transition to doing less
dances with her and more and more with others or another specific dancer.
I've had times when I stopped lapping with the dancer completely and
started with a new dancer. In this case, the "old" dancer got the message
but if I ever got to the club when my "new" dancer wasn't there yet or had
left, the "old" dancer would pounce on me. I've tried other methods like
still talking to her but not getting dances, tipping her on stage but not
laps, etc. Sometimes it works OK, other times it still costs money.
The bottom line is, there is no free lunch. Once you become a regular,
it's hard to un-do it without somebody getting a little hurt or pissed
I get email from customers that became infatuated with a dancer, then
later "dumped" by her and became despondent. Some extreme cases have
considered suicide. Personally, I don't think this has much to do with
dancers, and more to do with the customers questionable mental state and
the same situation could have happened with any female that this person
got involved with. My attitude on this is, just move on with your life.
There are plenty of other women in the ocean.
Many years ago on ASSC, I wrote a
sarcastic, but frighteningly realistic reply article to try to make one of
these people realize how crazy he was sounding to the rest of us. If you
are not easily offended, click here to read how
you can really get rid of a dancer. Again, please be aware that the
article is very offensive. Don't say I didn't warn you.
How do I make those origami folded money?
It's too hard to explain how to do origami in words and I'm not about
to do folding diagrams here. The best thing to do is to purchase a book
The Buck Book by Anne Akers Johnson which I have
used. This book shows you how to make rings, a frog, elephant (my
favorite), peacock and more. The book even comes with a real dollar bill,
in case you don't have one handy.
There is another book called
Money Folding (Origami Favorites Series) by
Florence Temko and V'Ann Cornelius but I do not own this book.
What's the etiquette when a girl wants to sit with
If I am interested in the girl, I will offer a drink to let her know
that I am not a clown. If I am not interested, I will tell her that I
don't mind her sitting with me and chatting but I am not interested in
laps. Often, that will be her cue to walk away. No big loss, I talk enough
already. If she elects to stay and chat, that's OK with me. I won't feel
like an ass later when she finally gets around to asking me. Sometimes
they will stay and chat hoping to change your mind about the dance. The
only downside to this is it keeps the other dancers away while you are
sitting with her. So little time, so many laps.
How much do I tip after just talking to a dancer?
Before I answer this question, you must keep in mind that by paying for
the dancer to talk to you, you are encouraging her to do so again in the
future. If this is exactly what you are trying to do, then by all means
tip well. But if that is not your intention, do not tip her or she will
continue to return to chat with you in the future.
Now, having said that, the answer to this question will depend on the
exact situation you are in. If you are a club where you will never be
returning to (e.g. you are out of town on vacation or business trip), it
really doesn't matter what you do. Tip if you want to be nice.
If you are at a club that you frequent, or think will be one you will
return to soon, you might tip well to advertise to her, and other girls
she talks to, that you are not a chump. If this particular dancer is
somebody that you are interested in, you should tip well so that she has a
good impression of you and to encourage her to come chat with you again on
your next trip.
The actual amount to tip should take into consideration the following
- Type of club (nude, topless/bikini).
- Cost of lap dances at the club.
- How much you want to impress.
You need to tip more at nude clubs than topless/bikini clubs.
Obviously, at a club where lap dances are only $10, you can tip less than
where they are $50 per song. My recommendation would be to tip at
least the cost of a lap dance, no matter what the other factors are.
Anything less will have no effect on the dancer so you might as well not
tip at all. There's no maximum but tipping the same amount as
getting lap dances would be generous enough to get any dancer's attention.
If you really want to impress, you should over-tip to ensure that the
dancer remembers you the next time you come in. A common baller
technique is to over-tip on a prior trip before coming in with a big
posse. That way, when you come in with your big group, you'll get a
lot of attention from the girl from the previous trip.
What's the polite way of asking how much dances are?
If I'm really interested in getting one, I just come right out and ask.
You're not asking for her weight, it's just business.
How much are lap dances?
Lap and private dance prices vary depending on the club and dancer.
Some clubs charge as little as $10, while others go up to $50 or more per
song. An important thing to note is that some clubs allow the dancers to
set the price. This is important to the customer since you may have danced
with one dancer who charges only $10 while another dancer may charge more
at the same club.
This practice is very common in many strip clubs. Personally, if the
dancer does not tell me in advance that she is charging more than the
"club rate", I will assume that it is the normal rate. However, this is
not good practice unless you are familiar with the dancer. If a dancer
dances first, then tells you that her dances are more than the club price,
you could complain to the management. However, I don't know if one would
get favorable results from this. Generally speaking, the management tends
to side with their workers on many issues and it's usually a lost cause.
A good rule of thumb is to double-check the dance prices with the
dancer before starting the dances. Moreover, many dancers will try to
"cheat" on the count so I will ask her to count the number of dances as we
go along. Many will forget after a few dances and I will have to count for
the dancer, out loud.
Strip clubs have come a long way compared to where they were 15 years
ago but they are still not anywhere close being like normal businesses
when it comes to customer service and satisfaction. Such tactics will
continue to cause the industry to have a bad name in the eyes of the
How long are the lap dance songs?
The length of the songs can vary greatly from club to club. Generally,
for a lap factory (a club which is geared towards selling lap dances,
always nude), the length will be anywhere from 2 minutes to 3 minutes.
When these clubs have "specials", they can be much shorter. I've seen 6
for 1 specials where each song was about 15 seconds, just long enough for
the DJ to play the next song.
At non-lap factories (topless or bikini clubs), the songs can be
longer, from 3 minutes to 4 or more minutes.
Also, keep in mind that at some clubs, the length of the songs are
determined by the DJ on shift, while at most, the club dictates the length
of the songs. Once exception is
(Ontario) which has vending machines that determine the length of the
Can I get a discount for more than one song?
Some clubs offer that automatically during their "sale" when they try
to get customers to get laps. Some clubs even offer 6 for 1 discounts. But
be aware that they cut the songs so that the actual total time is not much
more than the regular amount.
Other clubs don't offer discounts. Some dancers will offer a discount
without you asking. Here's how I look at this topic. Usually, if you like
the dancer, other customers probably like her too. This means she doesn't
have to make deals. Economics works in strip clubs too. Others many
disagree on this, but I NEVER haggle on the price. If her price is crazy,
I just don't get a dance from her. I figure if I haggle, she will think
I'm cheap and not give me a good dance anyway. Why waste my time and money
on bad dances?
How do I find a good lap dancer?
In some clubs, there are seats that will allow you to observe the
goings on in the private booths or couch dances. Find these locations and
sit and observe for a while. Don't stare too much or the dancer will get
paranoid. Watch the stage and glance over once in a while to see what
she's doing. This is a good way to find out which dancers do good laps or
privates. Some general rules to follow before getting laps are:
- NEVER get a blind lap. This means, you should never get a lap from a
dancer without seeing her do a lap for another customer. At the minimum,
watch her dance on stage and see if she knows how to be sexy. But sexy
dances on stage do not always equal nasty dances.
- Don't believe any fantastic stories the dancer tells you before the
dance. "My lap dances are the nastiest in the WORLD!" Sure and I'm going
to give you my credit card.
- Try to establish some type of connection with the dancer before
getting your laps. This can be done by talking to her briefly after her
set on stage and a little before your lap. If the club allows for you to
"buy drinks for the lady", buy one and talk to her. By getting her to get
to know you a bit, she will feel a little more comfortable about cheating
for you during your laps.
- Don't ask if you can do something illegal or against club rules.
Although in some cases, dancers who don't care about getting busted or
fired may give you the answer you want, most savvy dancers will not answer
"Yes" to a question that could get them busted by vice cops or fired by
club management. After you get in the booth, slowly see how far the
dancer will let you go.
- If you get to talk to the dancer, ask the dancer where she has worked
before. If this is her first dancing job and she just started, forget any
laps from her. It takes a while to learn how to do good laps. If she tells
you she worked at a club which you know has nasty laps, ask her why she
quit. If she says because they were too nasty, you may be in trouble.
Otherwise, if she liked the other club, you are OK.
- When you are observing the dancer doing laps for another customer,
keep your eyes open for some of the following types of action that would
indicate a nasty lapper:
- The dancer faces away from the customer and puts her hand or hands
behind her back for a few seconds or her hands have this type of motion
when she turns around.
- When the dancer is facing the customer and grinding, her hand is on
her top and you see the customers head move or her arms move slightly.
- When the dancer is standing on the couch (only some clubs allow
this), watch to see if the customer's head moves forward or back when
the dancer bends over.
- The dancer spends a lot of time on her knees facing the customer
between his legs.
- The dancer is on her hands and knees 90 degrees turned relative to
the customer and her body is very low to the couch.
- The dancer changes her position quickly when the floater or bouncer
- The customer has a big stupid grin on his face for the whole song.
Who can I ask about high mileage
You might try asking the waitress after you tip her good. I've noticed
that this works less and less as the clubs seem to become more like a
factory. In the good old days, the waitress would be friends with the best
money makers but not any more. You can forget about asking the floaters,
security or DJs unless you have gotten to know them. They don't know if
you are vice so they aren't going to tell you crap. The best way is to get
to know the people at your favorite club and the "word" will come to you.
What should I wear for lap dances?
Regardless of the type of dances you will be getting (laps or bed), I
suggest you wear shorts or at least thin and smooth material pants (or
loose sweat pants) to get the full effect. Do NOT wear Levi pants because
this type of material is too rough for the dancers to rub against and some
will object to it.
There are a few clubs that do not let you wear shorts or at least, no
short shorts. You can usually get away with wearing walking shorts,
especially if you pull them down low so that the bottom appears to be
below your knees.
Am I allowed to c*m during a lap dance?
Although there's nothing stopping you from doing so, I would let the
dancer know because she might not be expecting it. At some clubs, this
type of behavior is expected and the dancer would not be surprised. In
fact, she might tell you to go to the bathroom and put a condom on before
starting the lap dance. However, at other clubs, the dancer might get mad
and walk away just for asking.
For people who find condoms uncomfortable, you might try checking out
Can a dancer have an orgasm during a lap dance?
Depending on the type of lap dances that are available and the dancer
you are with, it is possible. I've talked to several dancers who have said
that they have had this experience. One dancer told me that it is even
possible (on rare instances) for her to orgasm on stage during her set if
she is in the right mood (and probably the right drugs).
Having said that, it is more likely than not, that the dancer is faking
What does a dancer mean when she says, "You
can get comfortable"?
In peek booths, private rooms or booths in strip clubs, and modeling
studios, the dancer will often use this term to mean that it is alright
for you to expose your penis and masturbate. The reason for using this
phrase is because it would be illegal for her to tell you to masturbate if
you happen to be a vice cop. However, by using that term, if you should
decide to interpret it in that way, she is not responsible.
Just don't get too used to whipping it out when you hear this phrase in
case your boss says it during a meeting.
How do I pick the dancer I want and discourage
Discouraging others can simply done by looking uninterested when they
walk by. Some will come over anyway so you simply have to say "No thank
you" in a nice way. Unfortunately, the other dancers will see that you are
saying "No" to dancers. This will make the other dancers keep away from
you. That's good, you say? That's good except for that one or 2 that you
DO want to get a dance from. They won't ask you either.
The question that is being eluded to is: What's a good way to let a
dancer know that you are interested?
If she is not busy, just looking at her and smiling will get their
attention most of the time. If you can get her to look at you, just wave
her over. If not, just walk right up to her and say hello. Unlike the
"real world", it's easy to get dancers to come over to talk to you, that's
their job. Just don't look unapproachable. Look happy, open and ready to
If the dancer is with a customer, it's a little trickier. It's rude to
interrupt a dancer talking to a customer. Some of the more popular ones
will go from regular customer straight to regular customer (not to mention
others that run after them) and you will not get a chance to talk to them.
Obviously, if they walk near you, you can wave them down.
If they never get close to where you are, the only 2 other options are:
Wait until they go on stage, tip big and when they pickup their tips from
you, ask them to come over for a private. Notice that you must stress that
you will ask them for a private. If you simply say "I'd like to talk to
you", they might think you are going to just BS and not come over. This
does not work in clubs where the dancer only goes on stage once every 6
The second way is to tip the waitress to tell the dancer to come to
you. This is your last resort. Sometimes, this will not work because the
dancer feels like you should do your own dirty work. The important feature
of this method is to tip the waitress big. If the waitress thinks you're
cheap, she will tell the dancer that message.
On this subject of interacting with dancers, talking to a dancer that
you are not interested in getting dances from is not always bad. As long
as you tell her that you are not going to get a dance, it's up to her if
she wants to talk to you. Some dancers are bored and will chat. Why is
this good? Because the other dancers see that you are "OK" and will come
If you become a "regular" and dancers get to know you, it will become
increasingly easier for you to get dances from the ones that you want.
They will recognize you from another trip, some will remember that you got
dances from them or others and come over hoping to get dances from you.
How do you say "No" to a dancer asking for laps?
I've been in the exact same situation many times. I've tried different
tactics with different results. I've told the dancer that I don't get lap
dances. Later, I ended up getting a dance from another dancer. This turned
out to be a really bad technique because the first dancer came back to me
and called me a liar.
In the few times when the dancer was not only being a pest but had an
attitude to go along with it, I bluntly told her she was not attractive to
me. The problem with this is that she might go to the dressing room and
give you a bad rep before you talk to any other dancer.
I've also tried the less blunt but more aggressive "no" with some sugar
on it, "No thanks. I appreciate you asking but I really don't want a
dance." with extra emphasis on the "really". This usually works but I've
had dancers come back and joke around with, "Are you *really* sure?"
If the same girl keeps coming back, sometimes I even chuckle a little
and smile. Sometimes, that will give her the clue that I think it's
getting ridiculous. Some dancers NEVER get the hint or they just forget
who they asked and keep asking like a robot.
The bottom line here is: there's no sure fire way without being mean or
blunt. Personally, I just keep saying "no" with a smile (like you) hoping
she gets the message. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
How can I find a dancer I used to know?
Not easily. Dancers move often and even change their stage names when
they go to new clubs. Many change their hair color, gain or lose weight,
or get bigger tops. Even if you have her real name, you will have problems
finding her because many dancers don't tell other dancers their real
names. Many clubs have policies of not telling customers where a dancer
went to because of stalkers.
If the dancer you know has a very distinctive look, birthmark or
tattoo, you might ask dancers if they know a dancer with that description.
Otherwise, you are probably out of luck. Even then, they might think you
are vice or a stalker unless you know them.
Alternatively, you can post a message on my bulletin board under the
topic "Dancer Relocation" and cross your fingers and hope that somebody
reading this website knows who you are talking about.
How about hiring a private dick?
Why do dancers use stage names?
For various reasons. Some don't want anybody to know their real name
because their families don't know they dance. Others want a distinctive
name so that customers will remember them and ask for them. Many simply
don't want every Joe to know their name and call it out at the mall.
BTW (by the way), Z Bone is my stage name. My friends call me Z but you
can call me Mr. Bone.
Are dancers self-destructive because of
their traumatic past experiences or is it because of the strip club
It's hard to make generalizations but I would say that it's the former
more often than not. Usually, the person's self-destructive nature brings
them to the strip club. This is not always the case but if you poll all
the dancers, often, you will see that most of them had some problems in
their life, mainly dealing with some form of abuse from the father figure.
The University of Pennsylvania did a psychiatric study and found that
60-80% of nude dancers were raped or sexually abused as children.
However, I have seen some people get into the business who are
relatively normal and just needed money for school. In these cases, the
environment often starts to cause problems after a while. If they continue
to dance for more than 6 months, the likelihood of being affected
Again, these are generalizations and not all dancers are this way.
What do dancers do when their dancing days
It varies greatly. The dancers who were doing it temporarily while they
were going to college move on to their "real" jobs when they graduate. The
dancers who dance for a long time until they cannot make money dancing
anymore have the most difficulty switching because they really don't know
how to do anything else. They often move to a job in the same industry
that is not dancing (e.g. bartending, managing, house mom, selling dancer
clothes). Some will marry just about anybody that will get them out of the
business and become house wives. Some will take jobs offered by a
Do dancers "cheat"?
Yes, most. More greenery = better scenery. I was at a topless club in
Charleston a while back and noticed that it was very slow. We were the
only customers on stage. We sat on the side of the stage opposite the bar
and started tipping big. It only took a few seconds before the dancer
started to cheat big time. Before long, we were getting a nude dance with
Out of 10 dancers, how many are sluts?
By "slut", I assume you are using the definition of "promiscuous" as
opposed to "prostitute". To answer your question, I would say 1 or 2 are
super promiscuous (meaning that they will do almost anybody), 5 are very
sexually active, (but will not do customers), 2 are basically normal
(sexually active with SO) and 1 is sexually dysfunctional. Younger dancers
(16-22) tend to be more promiscuous and less so as they get older. That's
just an educated guess and is not based on a scientific survey.
Are many dancers bisexual or bi-curious?
Yes, IMO, a very large percentage compared to the regular population.
Let's face it. If you were a bi-female, or gay, and liked good looking
women, where would you work? Me too.
Can I get a STD from lap dancing?
Believe it or not, I get asked this a lot. Remember that I am not a
doctor. Just a wannabe gynecologist. The quick answer is: depends.
If you are getting a normal or low mileage lap dance, your odds of
catching something are basically zero. However, if you are French kissing
the dancer, licking her private parts, letting her lick your gameboy, or
some form of actual sex, then the odds will increase dramatically.
If you are specifically worried about AIDS, you are less likely to
catch it unless you or she has a cut or an open sore. Does this mean you
can't catch AIDS this way? No. The odds of winning the Lotto is low too
but people still play. They play because there is that small chance.
The thing to remember is this. If the dancer is doing these things with
you, the odds are, she is doing them with other customers. That increases
the chances of her having some type of STD that she may pass on to you.
Have fun, but play safe.
Do dancers go out with customers?
Some do but this is the exception and not the rule. Some clubs have
more relaxed rules about dating customers. Some clubs will fire any dancer
that is caught dating a customer. Generally speaking, there isn't much a
club can do about what a dancer does on her free time. But keep in mind
that talking about going out with a dancer at the club could get her in
The question to ask is, "Why do you want to go out with a dancer?" IMO,
going out with dancers is overrated. Dancers are people, just like you and
me. They have their problems like anybody. There's really no reason to go
out with dancers except for the following benefits:
- Don't have to stand in line outside dance clubs.
- Cause accidents on the freeway by having them moon other drivers.
- Never have to buy CDs. Just borrow theirs.
- Get free food by betting your friends that she will flash the waiter.
What kind of guys are dancers looking for?
I often get similar questions like, "Can I ask a
dancer for her phone number?" Of course, the answer is yes. Nothing
stopping you from asking. But think about how many others are doing the
same thing. Most dancers are pretty tired of that stuff.
Are the dancers looking for a guy with money, security, looks, or
Depends on the dancer but all of the above doesn't hurt. Many have
boyfriends, others are married, others are single mothers, and others are
just single. As in other occupations, the good lookers usually have a
waiting list and they are picky. The ones who are not with somebody are
either scammers, hustlers or a little too screwed up in the head to
maintain a relationship. Those are generalizations and there are many
exceptions. If you just want sex, that's a lot easier to get. If you want
a relationship, you'd better ask yourself if that's what you really want.
Then, ask again. Then ask why.
Can I get a dancer's phone number?
You can ask. Some will give it to you, and others won't.
Although some dancers will give out fake numbers, many will give you a
number that is their answering service. If you call, they will have a
message indicating when they will be working. If you are a big spender, it
would not be unusual for a dancer to give you their number so that you can
call and let them know you are coming to the club. More often, the
dancer will ask for your number so she can call you to let you know when
If you have a favorite dancer, I suggest you ask her what the best way
is to find out when she works. She may tell you that she has a regular
schedule. That would be your opportunity to ask if you could have her
phone number so that you can call and check her schedule. It doesn't hurt
The next question I get is, "Does the club care?" Although there
are some clubs that have rules against it or at least discourage dancers
from giving out their phone number, it's impossible to enforce. Most clubs
just leave it up to the dancers discretion. Frankly, the odds of getting
their phone number is directly proportional to how much money you give
And the last follow up question is, "Can I get in trouble?" The
customer can never get in trouble for asking or giving out a number. In
some cases, the dancer might get in trouble for giving out their number
but never for receiving a number from the customer.
Are some dancers prostitutes?
Are some waitresses prostitutes? Probably. There are definitely some
percentage of dancers who are also prostitutes. And in the same way
that you could go to the mall and find a prostitute if you look hard
enough, you will probably find one at a strip club as well. This does not
change the fact that the strip club is for the enjoyment of watching
dancers strip and not picking up prostitutes.
Having said that, if that's what you are into, I'm sure your hit rate
would be higher than at a fast food restaurant. The reason is because
there are a high number of attractive women there that are used to dealing
with male customers and money. In the same way that the hit rate for
models and actresses are also pretty good comparatively.
One word of caution. Dancers who prostitute on the side are usually
more expensive than normal prostitutes and are also looking for Sugar
Daddies. If you are not ready for this type of monetary action, be careful
and be ready. Good luck.
I am pretty tired of answering similar questions, asking how to pick up
dancers, how to find out if they are prostitutes, etc. My short answer to
all of these questions: If you have to ask, you won't understand my
My suggestion for you in this area is to save time and money. It would
be much easier, faster and cheaper to read the LA XPress ads.
What are privates?
When a dancer uses the term "privates," she is referring to an outside
encounter. Over the years, this has become more common and now a FAQ.
Normally, most customers will assume this means some type of sexual
encounter. However, the specific type of encounter will depend on the
situation that is agreed on. If specifics are not agreed on prior to the
encounter, don't be surprised if the meeting is only a high mileage lap
dance at her place or yours.
Some dancers may try to charge more than the club, because you are getting
the privacy and convenience of getting the lap dances at your own home or
hers. However, since there is no middle man (the club) taking money from
each lap dance, the cost should be no more than at the club. The tipout
the club would normally get should be more than enough extra for the
In the case where you are getting more than what you can get at the
club, the cost should be negotiated prior to the encounter and expect to
pay more than at the club. This is because sometimes the dancer will be
expecting a large amount of money and you may not want to pay it. This
could lead to an argument, or at the minimum, an awkward situation which
may lead to not being able to see this dancer again.
As in any negotiation situation, be clear on what you want and what you
are willing to pay for it. If you are trying to get a dancer to do more
than what she is willing to do, it will usually cost a lot more than what
you can get from a prostitute. However, the good news is, if you've
already established some type of connection with her at the club, you will
probably get a better encounter than you would from a prostitute that you
This form of entertainment can be fun but be very careful. There's an
infamous case of a porno actress in Florida who did "privates," and would
send people to burglarized the house after she cased the place during her
privates. There are also cases where the "driver" comes in with the dancer
and proceeds to rob the occupants instead. In a more recent case,
the "driver" beat the customer to death and was later charged with murder.
How can I ask a dancer if she'll do "privates"?
If you don't know the dancer, she will probably not agree to such
things for her own protection as well as because of the possibility that
you might be vice. Either she will bring up the subject indirectly or you
can bring it up after you get to know her a little. There are definitely
cases where this does not apply and the way you look and act can also
determine your hit/miss ratio.
How can I get a dancer for a
private bachelor party?
Depending on how much time you have to setup your party, I'd suggest
one of the following methods:
One way is to call
one of the stripper services available (try my
links section). The advantage for
this method is if the dancer does not show up, you can call the service
and they will send another one. Most services have a book of pictures
for you to choose your dancer from. Also, it's unlikely that the dancer
will jack you. The disadvantage is you don't get to see the dancer in
action prior to the party.
- Go to a strip club and find a dancer or dancers that you like and
ask them if they do private parties. The advantage is that you get to
talk to the potential dancer to see if you like her. The disadvantage is
she might not show up. This can be a buzz kill for the party. You could
minimize this possibility by going out to find the dancers shortly
before the party and bringing them to the party straight from the club.
This will cost since they will have to tipout the club to leave. Another
disadvantage is that since you don't know this dancer, she could turn
out to be connected to a home invasion jacker crazy boyfriend. Play safe
and be careful out there.
- Ask the manager or DJ at the club if they could hook you up. Chances
are that unless they know you, they will not want to take the
responsibility of hooking you up in case you turn out to be a serial
There are other ways but if you have to ask this question, you won't
understand my answer.
Regardless of how you end up finding a dancer, I highly recommend that
you get a small hotel suite to do that party in, unless you want your
house trashed or jacked later.
Should I get an escort for my private bachelor
I've never tried getting an escort for a bachelor party but I would
imagine that it would not go over too well because escorts often don't
want to be seen by too many people, and certainly don't want their
pictures taken. Whereas, bachelor party dancers and porno stars don't mind
pictures or even video. Also, escorts do NOT know how to give lap dances.
They can barely have good sex. So I would stay away from that unless you
know the person.
What's the going rate for a private party?
Like anything else, every dancer is different and prices are
negotiable. However, because of stiff competition in LA, the going rate
seems to have dropped to about $100 per hour. Of course, quality and price
go hand in hand. A real "feature" (read porno actress) can cost up to $400
per hour. You can usually get a reduced rate for multiple hours if you
tell her your party will be tipping her also.